EMBARRASSEDEMBARRASSMENT Sometimes we're embarrassed by our children. They don't act the way we think they should act or dress the way we'd like them to. They bicker with one another in public and express themselves loudly. They insist on wearing weird t-shirts or other inappropriate outfits to school - and even to church. They don't talk the way we think they should talk. We worry about what other people will think of them - and of us. We're afraid people will think we're bad parents. Feeling uncomfortable with our children doesn't mean we're bad parents. We're working hard to let our children be themselves, to be individuals. We know they need to "try on" different looks, different words, different behaviors. They need to have their own clothes and language in order to bond with their peers. And it isn't always easy to "let go" and let them. We can share our values with our children without passing judgment on them. We can stand back as they try their hand at life. Giving them a reassuring smile that lets them know we like them just the way they are. Accepting them just as they are supports their development. We can impose limits without place stumbling blocks in their path as they discover themselves. When we feel embarrassed, we can own our feelings and not blame our children for them. As I learn to be myself, I am able to let my children be themselves.Click here to listen to this meditation.
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