POSITIVE ATTITUDEDEVELOPING A POSITIVE ATTITUDE We used to think negatively about everything, including our children, especially when they misbehaved. We were so pessimistic about life that we believed “whatever can go wrong, will.” Our recovery programs have helped us to look at things from different perspectives. We are learning to maintain good attitudes toward our children and avoid expecting negative outcomes. When our children act in ways that concern us, we no longer focus on the problem behavior. Instead, we think about constructive action and plan ways to help them move toward new behaviors, rather than constantly scolding them for the old. We begin each new day with a favorable outlook and plans for making changes easy for them. We talk to them confidently about new behaviors. By staying focused on a good outcome, we easily resolve most problems without power struggles and without inflicting shame. As we develop up-beat attitudes toward our children, they change too. We can tell that they are feeling more confident and worthwhile, without carrying the shame we carried. It is a joy to see our children grow without having to experience the humiliation and shame that we felt as children. My positive approach helps me and my children overcome problems that used to overwhelm me.Click here to listen to this meditation.
This excerpt is from Daily Meditations for Parenting Our Kids by Thomas Wright. Click below for more information. Back To Meditations
|
